Getting ready to leave to see Sara, Kurt, and their son Luke in Tuscaloosa.
Break-ups......any advice would be well taken.
1) How long did it take you to get over a serious break-up?
2) Were you the the person broke up with, or the initiator of the break-up?
3) What symptoms did you suffer from (lack of sleep, thinking about them everyday, eating habits...)?
etc, etc, etc........
I'm still having a hard time; maybe because I've hit six months and I'm right in the middle of job despair and the Christmas holidays.
Let me know your thoughts.
2 comments:
Hope you have ('had' by the time you read this)a great travel time.
On break-ups. No advice. But I could answer your questions. Here I'll keep it brief.
1) How long: well over a year. I did not even talk to girls for a long while after the break up.
2) The break up was mutual which helped but still painful
3)Symptoms: loss of sleep, anger, deep sadness. I think I actually went through a grieving cycle, as if someone had died.
Well, on breakups:
I initiated a break-up several times during the duration of one relationship. He was the one to finally bring it to an end though. It took years for me to fully get over it. At the insistance of friends I began dating even though I still had feelings about Him and strong emotions about the whole incident and relationship. (I still believed at that time that we would get back together, even though He'd been dating the same person for several years.)
So, I dated. And even though I was dating, I wasn't putting my heart into it, mainly because I didn't have my heart to give. It still belonged to Him. One day a friend showed me that while dating these different guys I was comparing them all to Him. I realized that comparing them wasn't fair to them or to myself. So I decided that whenever I met someone I'd base my thoughts and emotions on their characteristics instead of what they lacked when stacked up against Him. And that's when I found the one that was exactly right for me. As I got to know him, I realized that he had everything that my old guy had, and more. And I also realized that I hadn't thought about my old guy in several months. (All of this happened more than 5 years after the old guy and I had parted.)
You'll find that. You just have to give it time and keep going. If you go out with someone, don't try to compare that person with your old love. It's not fair to the new person or to you. You need to find what the new person strikes in you. Does he have things in common with you? It may not be the same as the old guy, but this new person may offer something the old guy didn't. And until you look past the old relationship, you'll never see what a new relationship can offer.
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